Apparently, brides are all about the hotness these days, wearing curvy dresses with plunging necklines and backs.
Some snippets of wisdom from the article:
"Brides today want to look sexy and glamorous."
"They want to be the celebrity of their own event."
"Women...are looking at their weddings more like a movie premiere."
"[These dresses are] for the bride who envisions the march down the aisle as a long-dreamed-of photo op, and the reception as an after-party on the scale of Oscars night."
Well...if this is how people want to look at their wedding, that's their business, but I would strenuously advise anyone who's on the fence to put down the red carpet fantasy and back away.
I believe in the karma of things. And I believe that treating your wedding "like a movie premiere" where you can be a "celebrity" is asking for it in a big way.
Sure, a wedding should be fun and joyful, but--you're talking about joining yourself to another human being. Madeleine L'Engle wrote of "the terrible promises" that couples make each other on that day.
Oh, I know. In the wake of Eliot Spitzer, Larry Craig, David Vitter, Jim McGreevey, etcetera, etcetera, and I'm assuming here that the wives were not clued in to their husbands' extracurricular activities and thus that cynicism prevailed...In the wake of all that, we should take our weddings so seriously?
Yeah. Not despite that crap. Because of it. Because life is cold and you don't really know, not even when he's standing beside you. Not even when he's standing inside. Because you're both so appallingly human. So selfish, so vulnerable, so confused, so mortal and so afraid.
Yeah, I know, that sort of thinking messes up the photo op. How can you "be the celebrity of your own event" when you're filled with uncertainty, humility, and awe before your choices?
Really. How can you.
